FIRST OFF, I'M NOT A THERAPIST.

I'm Paula. I'm a Certified Relationship Coach, educator and the woman behind PaulaInked. My work is focused on applied relationship psychology and behavioural pattern recognition but really, I'm obsessed with understanding why we do the shit we do.

I'm also a very sensitive person. I feel things deeply. I have big emotions. For a long time, I thought that was something I needed to change about myself. It wasn't. I needed to learn myself. I needed to understand what I was actually feeling, why I was feeling it, what my emotions were telling me and what to do with that information.

And that became a huge part of how I look at everything else. Why we know better and don't do better. Why we repeat patterns we can clearly see. Why certain people affect us so deeply. Why we abandon ourselves to maintain relationships. And most importantly what the fuck do we actually do with that information?

I'm naturally very education-driven. If I don't understand something, I need to know why. So I study it. Psychology, behaviour, relationships, attachment, emotions, conditioning, communication, manipulation, self-abandonment and self-trust.

But I'm not interested in just explaining psychological concepts to you. I want to know: How does this show up in real life? How does it show up in YOU? And what can you actually do differently once you recognize it?

That's the foundation of my content and it's the foundation of The Mentorship.

Recognize it. Understand it. Apply it.

I don't believe the goal is to become so "healed" that nothing affects you. I don't believe being sensitive or emotional is something you need to fix. I don't believe every difficult person needs a diagnosis. And I definitely don't believe someone else should be making your decisions for you.

I want you to become someone you trust to make them yourself. Someone who understands her own emotions, can read behaviour, communicate directly, take accountability, recognize when she's abandoning herself and know what relationships actually belong in her life.

My job isn't to tell you how to live your life. My job is to teach you how to understand yourself well enough that you know how you want to live it.